哈佛大学推荐20个保持快乐的习惯，你做到了几个？|哈佛大学|同情心|自尊

　　你是否想过，为什么有些人看上去比别人更幸福？

　　为什么你不像自己所希望的那般快乐？

　　对此，你可能会说，

　　“如果得到那份工作，我就会变快乐”，

　　或者“如果能和那个人在一起，我就会变快乐”，

　　可是，事情常常不是这样的。

　　无数研究表明，快乐有助于成功，而非相反。

　　当你感到快乐，大脑会更具活力，更有创造性。

　　这就意味着快乐的人更容易得到他所想要的，

　　无论是工作、伴侣，还是其他梦想的东西。

　　快乐是一种可以习得的能力，

　　那么，如何才能变得更快乐？

　　看看下面哈佛大学推荐的20个快乐的习惯，

　　你做到了几个？

　　1.Be grateful.

　　学会感恩

　　Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life –the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’s eyes…

　　慢下来，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细节：人行道边精致的紫色小花，美丽的日落，洗去你一天疲惫的热水澡，伴侣眼中的笑意……

　　When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beauty, wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.

　　当你拥有一颗感恩之心，能够欣赏生活中的美丽、奇迹和祝福，你自然就会被幸福所充满。

　　2.Choose your friends wisely.

　　明智地选择你的朋友

　　According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.

　　哈佛研究表明，人际关系是影响个体幸福最重要的外部因素。所以如果你想变得快乐，选择和那些乐观的人在一起，欣赏你正如你欣赏他们，让你的生活变得更丰富、广阔、充满乐趣、富有意义。

　　3.Cultivate compassion.

　　富有同情心

　　When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.

　　如果我们能站在别人的角度，理解他人所处的位置，我们就能用更多的同情心，更加客观有效地处理问题。矛盾就会减少，快乐随之增加。

　　4.Keep learning.

　　不断学习

　　Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.

　　学习让我们保持年轻，梦想让我们充满活力。当我们让自己的大脑有效运作起来的时候，我们就不会总是想那些不快的事情，而是会变得开心和充实。

　　5.Become a problem solver.

　　学会解决问题

　　Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding a creative solution.

　　快乐的人是会解决问题的人。每当遇到挑战，他们不会垂头丧气，陷入低沉的状态。相反，他们会直面挑战，将精力放在寻找有效解决方案上。

　　By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way. The result? You’ll have more happiness in your life.

　　成为问题的解决者，你会建立起自信，无论你下决心做什么，都有能力实现，不管途中将遇到怎样的挑战。结果就是，你会变得更快乐。

　　6.Do what you love.

　　做你热爱的事情

　　Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. It’s one of life’s greatest blessings to find a line of work that we’re deeply passionate about and that utilizes our greatest gifts.

　　鉴于我们的成年生活中有三分之一都要花在工作上，热爱你所做的事情就显得无比重要。找到一份你深深热爱并能实现你潜能的工作室人生最大的幸运之一。

　　If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.

　　如果眼下你还不能做你喜欢做的事，那就努力在现在的工作中寻找快乐和意义，或者培养一个与你爱做之事相关的爱好。

　　7.Live in the present.

　　活在当下

　　When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you’re living in the present.

　　当你感到沮丧，说明你活在过去。当你感到担忧或焦虑，说明你活在未来。只有当你感到满足、开心、平和时，你才是活在当下。

　　8.Laugh often.

　　笑口常开

　　Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.

　　笑是对抗愤怒和沮丧的最佳利器。研究表明，即使是最简单的嘴角上扬的动作，都能增加你的幸福感。努力在每一天的奋斗中寻找幽默感和笑声。

　　9.Practice forgiveness.

　　学会原谅

　　Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself. So learn to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself.

　　憎恨和愤怒其实是自我惩罚的表现形式。当你原谅了对方，其实是练习对自己的善意。所以学会原谅那些过去伤害过你的人吧。更重要的是，学会原谅自己。

　　Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.

　　每个人都会犯错，正是通过我们所犯的错误，我们才能成长为一个更强大、更好的人。

　　10.Say thanks often.

　　经常说谢谢

　　Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.

　　永远感恩生命中的馈赠。同样重要的是，向那些让你的生活或大或小变得更好的人表达你的感谢。

　　11.Create deeper connections.

　　与人深交

　　Our happiness multiplies when we connectand bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.

　　当我们与另一个人在更深的层次上紧密联系时，我们的幸福感会增强。全身心陪伴和倾听是加强这种联系，给自己和他人带来欢乐最重要的两个方面。

　　12.Keep your agreement.

　　信守承诺

　　Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself. Do what you say you’re going to do.

　　我们的自尊是建立在我们的自我认同之上。高度自尊和快乐有直接关系。所以对别人、对自己信守承诺吧，说到做到。

　　13.Meditate.

　　冥想

　　According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.

　　哈佛研究表明，上过八次冥想课训练的人比那些控制欲强的群体平均快乐20%。诸如此类的训练可以导致大脑的结构性变化，包括海马体灰色物质的密度，它对学习和记忆都很重要，而且在结构上与自我意识、同情心和自省相关。

　　14.Focus on what you’re doing.

　　专注你所做的事情

　　When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!

　　当你全身心投入某件事时，你就会处于一种被称为的“连贯”的开心状态之中。当我们处于这种连贯性里，你就不太会关心别人对你怎么看，也不太会被不大重要的事情干扰。结果当时是，更快乐啦！

　　15.Be optimistic.

　　保持乐观

　　For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario everytime you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.

　　对于开心的人来说，玻璃杯一直都是半满的。每次当你面临一个挑战，如果你倾向于往最坏的方向想它，那么学着训练自己改变这种倾向吧。问问你自己，这种情况下有哪些好处，或者你能从中学到些什么。乐观肯定能驱动成功和幸福感。

　　16.Love unconditionally.

　　无条件地爱

　　No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.

　　没有人是完美的。接受你所有的不完美，而且也这样对待他人。无条件地爱一个人不代表你要花所有的时间陪他，帮他解决问题，而是意味着你要接收他本来的样子，允许他按照自己的步伐，走他自己的路。

　　17.Don’t give up.

　　决不放弃

　　Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.

　　未完成的任务和持续不断的失败不可避免地要挫伤你的自尊。如果你下定决心做某件事，那就做完它。不成功决不放弃。记住，失败只是一时，但被击败却是永远。只有当你放弃的时候，你才会被击败。

　　18.Do your best and then let go.

　　尽力而为，然后放手

　　Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.

　　每个人都有局限性。有时候，尽管我们已经很努力地在做一件事情，但总会事与愿违。那做最好的自己，然后放手吧。当你尽了全力，你就不会有遗憾。

　　19. Take care of yourself.

　　照顾好自己

　　A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.

　　拥有一个健康的体魄是幸福的关键。如果你身体不佳，你很难快乐起来，无论你有多努力。所以确保自己吃好喝好，做运动，以及适时休息，照顾好自己的身体，你的思想以及你的灵魂。

　　20. Give back.

　　回报他人

　　Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.

　　做好事是让你感觉良好的更可靠的办法。根据哈佛大学的研究，当人们做好事的时候，他们的大脑就会变活跃，就像得到别的奖励时所受的刺激一样。所以不用奇怪，那些关心别人的人比不关心别人的人更快乐。